September 13, 2010
The WKBW Quilt (aka Wimpy Kiddy Baby Whiner Quilt)
I'm a tinkerer, so I usually don't buy quilt kits or follow patterns to the letter, but this quilt is my one exception. A couple I knew was getting married about two years ago and they loved to decorate with black and white. Almost everything on their registry was black, white, or a combination of the two. Furniture...dishes...pictures...you get the idea. So when I saw this High Light quilt in the Fall 2008 issue of Quilts & More, I just knew they would love it. I called up the shop listed on the page and spent $300 ordering enough fabric to make a king size quilt (front, back and binding). I wouldn't normally take such a huge risk, but I was close enough with the couple to know their tastes pretty well. I finished the entire quilt top (aside from the 2 layers of sashing) a few months before the wedding, and the next time we went over for a visit, I brought the top so I could give them a sneak preview. I know...most people would think that's terrible and I'm ruining the surprise...but what can I say? I'm impatient and get super excited about giving presents! Well, as things turned out, it was a very good thing I did, because it wasn't well received at all.
I'll just go ahead and admit that I'm not a thick-skinned person, and I was so hurt that I found a dark corner to cry in that night. I couldn't (and still don't) understand where I went wrong. After the hurt came what I like to call a long period of secret "pissed offedness" and a healthy dose of self-pity. It was "secret" because I didn't want to admit to myself that I was the kind of childish and cowardly person that would hold a two year, passive-aggressive grudge. Meanwhile, the 90% completed top was folded and tossed under a pile of stuff to collect dust for a year and a half. I didn't want to put it somewhere I'd see it often, because I knew each glimpse would dredge up all those hurt feelings and anger.
A few months ago I realized I'm not the kind of person that should hold grudges. Truthfully, no one should...but it's particularly dangerous and unhealthy for me to hold onto anger because it's a huge problem in both sides of my family. I know I'm really susceptible to it, and I've seen many family members turn into bitter old codgers that have slowly shut out every imperfect person in their life (which is everyone!).
So I put on my big girl panties, let go of my unhealthy anger, and decided to finish this beautiful quilt. This past Saturday at our MQG Weekend Sew, I added both the thin black sashing and the thicker graphic sashing. I think I'm going to start pin basting sometime in October because I want to use this for our bedroom. I love black and white clothes, but I'm not usually a big fan of decorating with it because I find it a little harsh. I thought about selling it at first, but this quilt has slowly grown on me (I think it's the cute shams that sealed the deal and won over my heart), so we'll be using it as a fall/winter season quilt for our bed. We aren't allowed to paint our white apartment walls, so I have the luxury of being able to radically change the bed linens without clashing with the room decor :)
And there you have it. I know...I'm a big wimpy kiddy baby whiner sometimes...and I need to learn to let things go and forgive people despite their flaws (Because guess what...I have lots of flaws too! But shhh...that's our secret ::wink::)
My lovely assistant wasn't home yet and the light was fading, so these pictures are the best I could do. Did you know it's ridiculously hard to photograph a king size quilt? Well if not, now you do.
I promise all future photos will be at least 10x more awesome and show more than 50% of the quilt. Hopefully the Quilts & More photo up top will make up for what these lack ;)